It’s Gone

Ok, it’s over. Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Many of you have bought some chocolates or flowers. Maybe you even took your honey somewhere to eat. There are many ways to express your love. And that’s my point.

Now that the big day is over, have fun expressing your love in other ways. Use your imagination. Give the whole you, not the you invented by Hallmark.

Love is an action verb, which means that it means doing something. Saying it is important, but if the words “I love you” are merely said with no visible sign other than the words, your love is about effective as an echo.

Let’s look at the phrase “I love you.”

First, there’s the “I” part. This means that if I truly love somebody, I give me. To me, that means the very essence of who I am. It is not smothering somebody like a tidal wave with gifts money can buy, but offering the deepest part of me.

Next, there’s the love part. As I said, make it an action verb. Do stuff.

Finally, there’s “you”. If you are like me, that means that you are not perfect, but it is great to feel you are loved in spite of all your flaws. My feeling is that for a love to be grand, the you has to be the very essence of who you are. If you truly love somebody back, you offer yourself. It’s easy to love the best part of me. I know I am truly loved if somebody loves all of me.

This love stuff sounds difficult! I think so. That’s why I like Valentine’s Day. It gives a time to reflect on love and to just give it. Maybe it starts with a box of chocolates and a store-bought card, but it can grow from there.

I hope you have many more Valentine’s Days this year.