No Problem?

I couldn’t believe my ears! A man stood up in a public meeting and stated that there was no division on the board of directors he represented. The problem was that I have talked to three separate members of that same board who have told me that there is, indeed, division and that it has been around for years. Why would he say such a thing? Was he lying, unaware of the truth or what?

If I hit my thumb with a hammer, doesn’t my whole body know that there is a problem? Doesn’t my eye look at the throbbing mass? My tongue will be participating in the pain along with my brain.

Then how could he be unaware of the division on his board of directors?

It is not difficult to imagine. I have known husbands and wives who have not been aware of the problems in their marriage. They often say things like there were a few difficulties, but that is to be expected. As far as they were concerned, things were good. And then the spouse walks out the door.

The problem may not be entirely with this man’s perception, though. Perhaps the board members who were dissatisfied didn’t communicate with him very effectively.

The situation is still the same. If one person on a board is unhappy, then there is a problem that has to be resolved. It doesn’t matter who caused it. It doesn’t matter if you are right and the other person is wrong. What matters is that the problem is corrected.

Most have hear the saying, “It takes two to tango.” Well, I’d like to add another phrase to it. “It only takes one person to spoil the dance.” Try to recognize the problems that others may be having and deal with them. If you are the one in the relationship having the problem, make sure the other person is aware if it. Communicate. You’ll learn more about life by meeting the situation head-on rather than pretending or not knowing it exists.