The Good Conversation

Love is like a good conversation. So, what is a good conversation like?

It is somebody else and I contributing equally, each of us weaving our personality into the discussion. We bring all of the wisdom we have accumulated in our lives. We are separate beings intertwining our words to create something that enriches both of us.

The conversation explores life and searches for truth. The object is not to appear superior or defeat the other person. Both of us push and prod towards the goal. Neither person dominates as words dance from our spirits.

Both participants feel free to give our opinions without fearing judgement or being put down. In fact, differences are often celebrated as opportunities of enlightenment. While it may not change my viewpoint, it allows me to understand the spectrum that makes up human life. Every thought is important. Every piece of information is sifted and weighed carefully.

I have found that deep discussions involve many questions. It is nice if they are answered, but it is important that they are asked. Good conversations often leave some things unanswered so there is something to discuss next time.

A good conversation involves honesty. There is nothing to hide. Nothing is held back. There is a trust in the other person’s integrity. There is no fear in saying what you want to say or what needs to be said. That freedom allows spirits to soar and both people to explore their lives in great depth. It goes light years beyond the “Hello. How are you?” conversations that we have most days.

Usually, though not always, a good conversation involves laughter and joy. There is a passion to discover where the discussion will lead.

Finally, a good conversation is not all about me. My attention is focused on the other person and the result of my interaction.

At the end of a good conversation, both participants feel better for participating in it. Our spirits have been elevated and we are left longing for more.

Yes, to me love is like a good conversation.