1 John 4:18 (Bible in Basic English)
There is no fear in love: true love has no room for fear, because where fear is, there is pain; and he who is not free from fear is not complete in love.
Today is Valentine’s Day. Millions will be saying, “I love you” in so many ways. Some use flowers, others chocolates. Cards are another popular medium. I’m sure there will be somebody somewhere who will rent a billboard. We are whipped into a frenzy of declaring our love for somebody on this day. Hopefully those same feelings will exist beyond today. Still, it is nice that we stop and remember how important love is.
While love does involve giving, if we want to have the greatest love possible, it must be free from fear. What does this mean? To me it means making sure that you communicate effectively. You have to feel that you can tell the person you love anything without any fear. You become transparent to that person. In order to do this, you have to trust that person, and that is sometimes very difficult.
Almost everyone has experienced somebody who has hurt him or her and violated that trust. The result is often to have fear in love.
You want to be the best lover you can be? Then love someone without fear. If you can’t, then maybe it is time to get help to get over that fear or find somebody else to love who you can love without fear. That is, unless you don't care if you are the best lover you can be.
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